DO GOOD AND DON’T EVER STOP DOING GOOD, EVEN IF IT IS NOT APPRECIATED AT THAT TIME....

Do good and Don’t ever stop doing good, even if it is not appreciated at that time....


A woman baked chapatti (roti) for members of her family and an extra one for a hungry passerby. She kept the extra chapatti on the window sill, for who

So ever would take it away. Every day, a hunchback came and took away the chapatti. Instead of expressing gratitude, he muttered the following words as he went his way: “The evil you do remains with you: The good you do, comes back to you!” This went on, day after day. Every day, the hunchback came, picked up the chapatti and uttered the words:

“The evil you do, remains with you: The good you do, comes back to you!” The woman felt irritated. “Not a word of gratitude,” she said to herself… “Everyday this hunchback utters this jingle! What does he mean?” One day, exasperated, she decided to do away with him. “I shall get rid of this hunchback,” she said. And what did she do? She added poison to the chapatti she prepared for him!

As she was about to keep it on the window sill, her hands trembled. “What is this I am doing?” she said. Immediately, she threw the chapatti into the fire, prepared another one and kept it on the window sill. As usual, the hunchback came, picked up the chapatti and muttered the words: “The evil you do, remains with you: The good you do, comes back to you!”

The hunchback proceeded on his way, blissfully unaware of the war raging in the mind of the woman. Every day, as the woman placed the chapatti on the window sill, she offered a prayer for her son who had gone to a distant place to seek his fortune. For many months, she had no news of him.. She prayed for his safe return.

That evening, there was a knock on the door. As she opened it, she was surprised to find her son standing in the doorway. He had grown thin and lean. His garments were tattered and torn. He was hungry, starved and weak. As he saw his mother, he said, “Mom, it’s a miracle I’m here. While I was but a mile away, I was so famished that I collapsed. I would have died, but just then an old hunchback passed by. I begged of him for a morsel of food, and he was kind enough to give me a whole chapatti. As he gave it to me, he said, “This is what I eat everyday: today, I shall give it to you, for your need is greater than mine!”

” As the mother heard those words, her face turned pale. She leaned against the door for support. She remembered the poisoned chapatti that she had made that morning. Had she not burnt it in the fire, it would have been eaten by her own son, and he would have lost his life!

It was then that she realized the significance of the words: “The evil you do remains with you: The good you do, comes back to you!” Do good and Don’t ever stop doing good, even if it is not appreciated at that time.... 

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PUT EFFORT INTO THE RELATIONSHIP.

Sometimes, when we first like someone we tend to put so much effort into doing this and that for them to show that you genuinely care about them, But thing is that effort that was once there in the beginning begins to dwindle down after a while until one or the other stops trying altogether. When you feel the spark begin to FADE you have to do things together to reignite that flame, Do things to surprise each other now and then, you know? Don't let the same monotonous routines RUIN THE RELATIONSHIP. It could be a surprise "HOME COOKED DINNER" or just a nice day out with one another just to enjoy each others company. It doesn't even have to be anything expensive, Just as long as it genuinely comes from the heart and it shows that you still care about them. Do things from them that make them happy or even try new things that the other person may like, you know? All I'm really trying to say is make "EFFORT" a constant in the relationship instead of LETTING IT DIE after a while. If you care about them and they are someone special to you then I know you don't want to lose them, So I mean why stop trying then? ALWAYS TRY, FIGHT FOR THEM AND DON'T GIVE UP OR TAKE EACH OTHER FOR GRANTED.-- 

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Here are 30 habits that will change your Life

Developing good habits is the basic of personal development and growth. Everything we do is the result of a habit that was previously taught to us. Unfortunately, not all the habits that we have are good, that’s why we are constantly trying to improve.

The following is a list of 30 practical habits that can make a huge difference in your life.

You should treat this list as a reference, and implement just one habit per month. This way you will have the time to fully absorb each of them, while still seeing significant improvements each month.

Health habits

1. Exercise 30 minutes every day. Especially if you don’t do much movement while working, it’s essential that you get some daily exercise. 30 minutes every day are the minimum recommended for optimal health.
2. Eat breakfast every day. Breakfast is the more important meal of the day, yet so many people skip it. Personally, I like to eat a couple of toasts in the morning along with a fruit beverage.
3. Sleep 8 hours. Sleep deprivation is never a good idea. You may think that you are gaining time by sleeping less, when in reality you are only gaining stress and tiredness. 8 hours are a good number of hours for most people, along with an optional 20 minutes nap after lunch.
4. Avoid snacking between meals. Snacking between meals is the best way to gain weight. If you are hungry, eat something concrete. Otherwise don’t. Update: for clarification, I mean don’t eat junk food between meals, but eating real food it’s ok.
5. Eat five portions of fruits and vegetables every day. Our body and brain loves getting vegetables and fruit, so I highly recommend eating as much of them as possible. Five portions is the dose that’s usually recommended by many health associations.
6. Eat fish. Fish is rich of omega 3 and other healthy elements. At least one meal per week of fish should be enough for getting all these nutrients.
7. Drink one glass of water when you wake up. When you wake up, your body is dehydrated and needs liquid. Make the habit of drinking one glass of water after you wake up in the morning. Also, drink more during the day.
8. Avoid soda. Soda is often one of the most unhealthy beverage you can find. Limit your consumption of soda as much as possible and you’re body will be grateful for that.
9. Keep your body clean. I don’t advise spending your day in front of the mirror, but a minimum of personal care does never hurt.
10. If you smoke, stop it. There’s no reason to smoke anymore, and quitting is possible.
11. If you drink, stop it. Same as above. Don’t think that alcohol will solve your problems. It never does. The only exception is one glass of wine per day during meals.
12. Take the stairs. This is just a hack that forces you to do a minimum of exercise. Instead of taking the elevator, take the stairs.

Productivity habits

1. Use an inbox system. Make the habit of keeping track of all the ideas and things that comes to mind. You can use a notebook to do this, and then sync everything on your computer.
2. Prioritize. If you have a list of things to do, where do you start? One way is to prioritize your list. If you are in doubt, ask yourself: “If I could only accomplish one thing today, what would it be?”
3. Plan, but not too much. Planning is important, and you should decide in advance what you are going to do today or this week. However, planning for more than a few weeks is usually inefficient, so I would not worry too much about that.
4. Wake up early. Waking up early in the morning is a great way to gain extra time. I personally like to wake up at 5 am, so that by 9 am I have already accomplished what otherwise would have taken me many days..
5. Check your email only twice per day. Email can easily become an addiction, but it’s usually unnecessary to check it every 10 minutes. Make an effort and check your email only once or twice per day, see if the world will still rotate as before after you try this.
6. Eliminate unimportant tasks. Being busy all day does not mean you are doing important stuff. Eliminate every activity that’s not important, and focus on what really matters.
7. Clean off your desk and room. Having a clear room and desk is important to maintain focus and creativity.
8. Automate. There are a lot of tasks that you need to perform every day or every week. Try to automate them as much as possible.
9. Set strict deadlines. When you do something, decide in advance when you’re going to stop. There’s a rule that states that you will fulfill all the time you have available for completing a task, so make an habit of setting strict deadlines for maximizing your productivity.
10. Take one day off per week. Instead of working every day, take one day off per week (for example sunday) where you are not going to turn on your computer. Use that time for doing recreational activities like going for a walk.

Personal Development habits

1. Read 1 book per week. Reading is a good way to keep your brain active. With just 30 minutes per day you should be able to read one book per week, or more than 50 books per year.
2. Solve puzzles. Quizzes, word games, etc. are all good ways to exercise your brain.
3. Think positively. You are what you think, all the time.
4. Make fast decisions. Instead of thinking for one hour wherever you are going to do something, make your decisions as fast as possible (usually less than 1 minute).
5. Wait before buying. Waiting 48 hours before buying anything is a tremendous money saver, try it.
6. Meditate 30 minutes per day. A great way to gain clearness and peace is through meditation. 30 minutes are not a lot, but enough to get you started with meditation.

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Why do you like me..?

Once a Girl  when having a conversation with her lover,
asked:
Girl : Why do you like me..? Why do you love me?
Man : I can t tell the reason.. but I really like
you..

girl : You can t even tell me the reason… how can
you say you like
me? How can you say you love me?
Man : I really don t know the reason, but I can prove
that I love U.
girl : Proof? No! I want you to tell me the reason. My
friend's boyfriend can tell her why he loves her but not you!
Man : Ok..ok !!!
because you are beautiful, because your voice is sweet,
because you are caring, because you are loving,
because you are thoughtful, because of your smile,
because of your every movements.
The girl felt very satisfied with the man's answer.
Unfortunately, a few days later, the girl met with an
accident and went in comma...
The Guy then placed a letter by her side, and here is
the content:
Darling, Because of your sweet voice that I love you…
Now can you talk? No !! Therefore I cannot love you.
Because of your care and concern that I like you..
Now that you cannot show them, therefore I cannot love
you.
Because of your smile, because of your every movements
that I love you.. Now can you smile? Now can you move?
No, therefore I cannot love you…
If love needs a reason, like now,
There is no reason for me to love you anymore.
Does love need a reason? NO!
Therefore, I still love you…

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What is a Prayer?

What is Prayer ??

The real meaning of Prayer is not to ask something from GOD, its to thank him for whatever we have received till date.

As we already know & he himself has said that he is already there with us & looking after us. Whatever he has is ours as we are his child. So if we are his child then actually whatever he has is truly ours so why to ask for something which you already have :) 
And as him being the father he knows when and how to give you access to the stuffs which he has for us. Like our Dad does / did to us. He just wont give everything to us, but then he will when we are grown up / capable enough.

So, would say get up & get going. Grow up & make your self capable enough & GOD will give you everything what is meant for you.

So now you can thank him in prayer, for what you were able to utilize from what you have got. Do it every day when you go to bed, thank him for whatever good / bad you experienced.

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The Villager and the Happy Man

In a small village in the valley, lived a man who was always happy, kind, and well disposed to everyone he met. He always smiled, and had a kind and encouraging word to say whenever necessary. Everyone who met him left feeling better, happier and elated. People knew they could count on him, and regarded him as a great friend.

One of the village dwellers was curious to know what his secret was, and how he could always be so kind and helpful. He wondered, how is it that he held no grudge toward anyone, and why he was always happy.

Once, upon meeting him in the street he asked him: “Most people are selfish and unsatisfied. They do not smile as often as you do; neither are they as helpful or kind as you are. How do you explain it?”

“When you make peace with yourself, you can be in peace with the rest of the world. If you can recognize the spirit in yourself, you can recognize the spirit in everyone, and then you find it natural to be kind and well disposed to all. If your thoughts are under your control, you become strong and firm. The personality is like a robot programmed to do certain tasks. Your habits and thoughts are the tools and programs that control your personality. Become free from being programmed, and then the inner good and happiness that reside within you will be revealed.”

“But a lot of work is necessary. Good habits have to be developed. The ability to concentrate and to control the thoughts has to be strengthened. The work is difficult and endless. There are many walls that need to be to climbed. It is not an easy task.” Lamented the villager.

“Do not think about the difficulties, otherwise this is what you will see and experience. Just quieten your feelings and thoughts, and try to stay in this peace. Just try to be calm, and do not let yourself be carried away by your thoughts.”

“Is that all?” Asked the villager.

“Try to watch your thoughts and see how they come and go. Stay in the quietness that arises. The moments of peace will be brief at first, but in time they will get longer. This peace is also strength, power, kindness, and love. You will then realize that you are one with the Universal Power, and this will cause you to act from a different dimension, not from the selfish, small, limited ego.”

“I will try to remember your words,” said the villager and continued, “there is another thing that I am curious about. You do not seem to be influenced by the environment. You have a kind word to everyone, and are helpful. However, people treat you well, and do not exploit your goodness.”

“Being good and being kind do not necessarily point to weakness. When you are good, you can also be strong. People sense your inner strength, and therefore do not impose on you. When you are strong and calm inside, you help people, because you can, and you want to. You then act from strength and not from weakness. Goodness can also go with power and strength, it is not a sign of weakness, as some people erroneously think.”

“Thank you very much for your advice and explanation”, said the villager, and went away happy and satisfied.

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I Love You

The depth of your eyes, the words no man could ever speak
Your essence, your very presence makes me weak
The comfort of your body, the warmth of your soul you emit
You practically melt my heart the moment we kiss 
And the first moment we did, I knew that I loved you 
Yeah I'm a guy but I could have cried when you said you loved me too
See I could have held you forever and died that very day
If I'd gone in your arms, I wouldn't want it any other way 
You are my life, my death, my beginning & my end
My love, my lady, my baby and best friend
I'm your man; we can go for a walk in the park & hold hands
All things aside, baby I want you to know that I understand
And if I don't, I want you to try & give me a chance,
Let me make it right, take you out to a dinner & dance :p
What ever you want what ever you need, baby I'm there
For you I'll die a thousand deaths to show how much I care
I'm not saying I'm perfect, not even close
But if anyone loves you, I think I'll love you the most
For you I'd fight worlds, or remove every thorn on every rose
Just so I can tickle your cute little nose :p
I love every inch of you, inside and out
When I found you, I found out what my life is all about (S)

*I Love You*

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An excellent and Great Love Story of Narayana Murthy (Infosys Founder) and Sudha (From Sudha's Autobiography) -Pls don’t miss it

An excellent and Great Love Story of Narayan Murthy (Infosys Founder) and Sudha (From Sudha ' s Autobiography) - pls dont miss it 

An Inspiring Love story,, its worth, Read it !!

Love Story of Narayan a Murthy (Infosys Founder) and Sudha (From Sudha ' s Autobiography)

It was in Pune that I met Narayan Murty through my friend Prasanna who is now the Wipro chief, who was also training in Telco(TataMotors). Most of the books that Prasanna lent me had Murty ' s name on them which meant that I had a preconceived image of the man. Contrary to expectation, Murty was shy,bespectacled and an introvert. When he invited us for dinner. I was a bit taken aback as I thought the young man was making a very fast move. I refused since I was the only girl in the group. But Murty was relentless and we all decided to meet for dinner the next day at 7.30 p.m .. at Green Fields hotel on the Main Road ,Pune.


The next day I went there at 7 ' o ! clock since I had to go to the tailor near the hotel. And what do I see? Mr. Murty waiting in front of the hotel and it was only seven. Till today, Murty maintains that I had mentioned (consciously!) that I would be going to the tailor at 7 so that I could meet him... And I maintain that I did not say any such thing consciously or unconsciously because I did not think of Murty as anything other than a friend at that stage. We have agreed to disagree on this matter.


Soon, we became friends. Our conversations were filled with Murty ' s experiences abroad and the books that he has read. My friends insisted that Murty as trying to impress me because he was interested in me. I kept denying it till one fine day, after dinner Murty said, I want to tell you something. I knew this   as it. It was coming. He said, I am 5 ' 4" tall. I come from a lower middle class family. I can never become rich in my life an! d I can never give you any riches. You are beautiful, bright, and intelligent and you can get anyone you want. But will you marry me? I asked Murty to give me some time for an answer. My father didn ' t want me to marry a wannabe politician, (a communist at that) who didn ' t have a steady job and wanted to build an orphanage...


When I went to Hubli I told my parents about Murty and his proposal. My mother was positive since Murty was also from Karnataka, seemed intelligent and comes from a good family. But my father asked: What ' s his job, his salary, his qualifications etc? Murty was working as a research assistant and was earning less than me. He was willing to go dutch with me on our outings. My parents agreed to meet Murty in Pune on a particular day at10 a. m sharp. Murty did not turn up. How can I trust a man to take care of my daughter if he cannot keep an appointment, asked my father.


At 12noon Murty turned up in a bright red shirt! He had gone on work to Bombay , was stuck in a traffic jam on the ghats, so he hired a taxi(though it was very expensive for him) to meet his would-be father-in-law. Father was unimpressed. My father asked him what he wanted to become in life.


Murty said he wanted to become a politician in the communist party and wanted to open an orphanage. My father gave his verdict. NO. I don ' t want my daughter to marry somebody who wants to become a communist and then open an orphanage when he himself didn ' t have money to support his family.


Ironically, today, I have opened many orphanages   something, which Murty wanted to do 25 years ago. By this time I realized I had developed a liking towards Murty which could only be termed as love. I wanted to marry Murty because he is an honest man. He proposed to me highlighting the negatives in his life. I promised my father that I will not marry Murty without his blessings though at the same time, I cannot marry anybody else. My father said he would agree if Murty promised to take up a steady job. But Murty refused saying he will not do things in life because somebody wanted him to. So, I was caught between the two most important people in my life.


The stalemate continued for three years during which our courtship took us to every restaurant and cinema hall in Pune. In those days, Murty was always broke. Moreover, he didn ' t earn much to manage.. Ironically today, he manages Infosys Technologies Ltd., one of the world ' s most reputed companies. He always owed me money. We used to go for dinner and he would say, I don ' t have money with me, you pay my share, I will return it to you later. For three years I maintained a book on Murty ' s debt to me.. No, he never returned the money and I finally tore it up after my wedding.


The amount was a little over Rs 4000. During this interim period Murty quit his job as research assistant and started his own software business. Now, I had to pay his salary too! Towards the late 70s computers were entering India in a big way.


During the fag end of 1977 Murty decided to take up a job as General Manager at Patni computers in Bombay .. But before he joined the company he wanted to marry me since he was to go on training to the US after joining. My father gave in as he was happy Murty had a decent job, now.

WE WERE MARRIED IN MURTY ' S HOUSE IN BANGALORE ON FEBRUARY 10, 1978 WITH ONLY OUR TWO FAMILIES PRESENT.I GOT MY FIRST SILK SARI. THE WEDDING EXPENSES CAME TO ONLY RS 800 (US $17) WITH MURTY AND I POOLING IN RS 400 EACH.

I went to the US with Murty after marriage. Murty encouraged me to see America on my own because I loved travelling. I toured America for three months on backpack and had interesting experiences which will remain fresh in my mind forever. Like the time when the New York police took me into custody because they thought I was an Italian trafficking drugs in Harlem . Or the time when I spent the night at the bottom of the Grand Canyon with an old couple. Murty panicked because he couldn ' t get a response from my hotel room even at midnight. He thought I was either killed or kidnapped.


IN 1981 MURTY WANTED TO START INFOSYS. HE HAD A VISION AND ZERO CAPITAL...initially I was very apprehensive about Murty getting into business. We did not have any business background ... Moreover we were living a comfortable life in Bombay with a regular pay check and I didn ' t want to rock the boat. But Murty was passionate about creating good quality software. I decided to support him. Typical of Murty, he just had a dream and no money. So I gave him Rs 10,000 which I had saved for a rainy day, without his knowledge and told him, This is all I have. Take it. I give you three years sabbatical leave. I will take care of the
financial needs of our house. You go and chase your dreams without any worry. But you
have only three years!

Infosys founders (Left to right): Nandan Nilekani, S Gopalakrishnan, N R Narayana Murthy, K Dinesh, N S Raghavan and S D Shibulal.

Murty and his six colleagues started Infosys in 1981,with enormous interest and hard work. In 1982 I left Telco and moved to Pune with Murty. We bought a small house on loan which also became the Infosys office. I was a clerk-cum-cook-cum-programmer. I also took up a job as Senior Systems Analyst with Walchand group of Industries to support the house.

In 1983 Infosys got their first client, MICO, in Bangalore . Murty moved to Bangalore and stayed with his mother while I went to Hubli to deliver my second child, Rohan. Ten days after my son was born, Murty left for the US on project work. I saw him only after a year, as I was unable to join Murty in the US because my son had infantile eczema, an allergy to vaccinations. So for more than a year I did not step outside our home for fear of my son contracting an infection. It was only after Rohan got all his vaccinations that I came to Bangalore where we rented a small house in Jayanagar and rented another house as Infosys headquarters. 

My father presented Murty a scooter to commute. I once again became a cook, programmer, clerk,
secretary, office assistant et al. Nandan Nilekani (MD of Infosys) and his wife Rohini stayed with us. While Rohini babysat my son, I wrote programs for Infosys. There was no car, no phone, and just two kids and a bunch of us working hard, juggling our lives and having fun while Infosys was taking shape. It was not only me but also the wives of other partners too who gave their unstinted support. We all knew that our men were trying to build something good.

It was like a big joint family,taking care and looking out for one another. I still remember Sudha Gopalakrishna looking after my daughter Akshata with all care and love while Kumari Shibulal cooked for all of us. Murty made it very clear that it would either be me or him working at Infosys. Never the two of us together... I was involved with Infosys initially.

Sudha      Rohini Nilekani     Kumari Shibulal

It took me a couple of days to grasp the reason behind Murty ' s request..I realized that to make Infosys a success one had to give one ' s 100 percent. One had to be focussed on it alone with no other distractions.. If the two of us had to give 100 percent to Infosys then what would happen to our home and our children? One of us had to take care of our home while the other took care of Infosys.

Members of the Infosys start-up team in the early days. Chairman and Chief Mentor, the iconic N R Narayana Murthy, is seen at far left

I opted to be a homemaker, after all Infosys was Murty 's dream. It was a big sacrifice but it was one that had to be made. Even today, Murty says, Sudha, I stepped on your career to make mine. You are responsible for my success. 

"Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away"

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Health Tip

SHARE THIS INFORMATION FIRST AND READ AFTERWARDS.....SAVE LIFE Share this as much as you can.

"10000 times stronger killer of CANCER than Chemo".. do share it.. can save many lives, fill up hopes and build confidence in the patients...

The Sour Sop or the fruit from the graviola tree is a miraculous natural cancer cell killer 10,000 times stronger than Chemo.

Why are we not aware of this? Its because some big corporation want to make back their money spent on years of research by trying to make a synthetic version of it for sale.

So, since you know it now you can help a friend in need by letting him know or just drink some sour sop juice yourself as prevention from time to time. The taste is not bad after all. It’s completely natural and definitely has no side effects. If you have the space, plant one in your garden.
The other parts of the tree are also useful.

The next time you have a fruit juice, ask for a sour sop.

How many people died in vain while this billion-dollar drug maker concealed the secret of the miraculous Graviola tree?

This tree is low and is called graviola ! in Brazi l, guanabana in Spanish and has the uninspiring name “soursop” in English. The fruit is very large and the subacid sweet white pulp is eaten out of hand or, more commonly, used to make fruit drinks, sherbets and such.

The principal interest in this plant is because of its strong anti-cancer effects. Although it is effective for a number of medical conditions, it is its anti tumor effect that is of most interest. This plant is a proven cancer remedy for cancers of all types.

Besides being a cancer remedy, graviola is a broad spectrum antimicrobial agent for both bacterial and fungal infections, is effective against internal parasites and worms, lowers high blood pressure and is used for depression, stress and nervous disorders.

If there ever was a single example that makes it dramatically clear why the existence of Health Sciences Institute is so vital to Americans like you, it’s the incredible story behind the Graviola tree..

The truth is stunningly simple: Deep within the Amazon Rainforest grows a tree that could literally revolutionize what you, your doctor, and the rest of the world thinks about cancer treatment and chances of survival. The future has never looked more promising.

Research shows that with extracts from this miraculous tree it now may be possible to:
* Attack cancer safely and effectively with an all-natural therapy that does not cause extreme nausea, weight loss and hair loss
* Protect your immune system and avoid deadly infections
* Feel stronger and healthier throughout the course of the treatment
* Boost your energy and improve your outlook on life

The source of this information is just as stunning: It comes from one of America ‘s largest drug manufacturers, th! e fruit of over 20 laboratory tests conducted since the 1970's! What those tests revealed was nothing short of mind numbing… Extracts from the tree were shown to:

* Effectively target and kill malignant cells in 12 types of cancer, including colon, breast, prostate, lung and pancreatic cancer..
* The tree compounds proved to be up to 10,000 times stronger in slowing the growth of cancer cells than Adriamycin, a commonly used chemotherapeutic drug!
* What’s more, unlike chemotherapy, the compound extracted from the Graviola tree selectivelyhunts
down and kills only cancer cells.. It does not harm healthy cells!

The amazing anti-cancer properties of the Graviola tree have been extensively researched–so why haven’t you heard anything about it? If Graviola extract is

One of America ‘s biggest billion-dollar drug makers began a search for a cancer cure and their research centered on Graviola, a legendary healing tree from the Amazon Rainforest.

Various parts of the Graviola tree–including the bark, leaves, roots, fruit and fruit-seeds–have been used for centuries by medicine men and native Indi! ans in South America to treat heart disease, asthma, liver problems and arthritis. Going on very little documented scientific evidence, the company poured money and resources into testing the tree’s anti-cancerous properties–and were shocked by the results. Graviola proved itself to be a cancer-killing dynamo.
But that’s where the Graviola story nearly ended.

The company had one huge problem with the Graviola tree–it’s completely natural, and so, under federal law, not patentable. There’s no way to make serious profits from it.

It turns out the drug company invested nearly seven years trying to synthesize two of the Graviola tree’s most powerful anti-cancer ingredients. If they could isolate and produce man-made clones of what makes the Graviola so potent, they’d be able to patent it and make their money back. Alas, they hit a brick wall. The original simply could not be replicated. There was no way the company could protect its profits–or even make back the millions it poured into research.

As the dream of huge profits evaporated, their testing on Graviola came to a screeching halt. Even worse, the company shelved the entire project and chose not to publish the findings of its research!

Luckily, however, there was one scientist from the Graviola research team whose conscience wouldn’t let him see such atrocity committed. Risking his career, he contacted a company that’s dedicated to harvesting medical plants from the Amazon Rainforest and blew the whistle.

Miracle unleashed
When researchers at the Health Sciences Institute were alerted to the news of Graviola,! they be gan tracking the research done on the cancer-killing tree. Evidence of the astounding effectiveness of Graviola–and its shocking cover-up–came in fast and furious….

….The National Cancer Institute performed the first scientific research in 1976. The results showed that Graviola’s “leaves and stems were found effective in attacking and destroying malignant cells.” Inexplicably, the results were published in an internal report and never released to the public…

….Since 1976, Graviola has proven to be an immensely potent cancer killer in 20 independent laboratory tests, yet no double-blind clinical trials–the typical benchmark mainstream doctors and journals use to judge a treatment’s value–were ever initiated….

….A study published in the Journal of Natural Products, following a recent study conducted at Catholic University of South Korea stated that one chemical in Graviola was found to selectively kill colon cancer cells at “10,000 times the potency of (the commonly used chemotherapy drug) Adriamycin…”

….The most significant part of the Catholic University of South Korea report is that Graviola was shown to selectively target the cancer cells, leaving healthy cells untouched. Unlike chemotherapy, which indiscriminately targets all actively reproducing cells (such as stomach and hair cells), causing the often devastating side effects of nausea and hair loss in cancer patients.

…A study at Purdue University recently found that leaves from the Graviola tree killed cancer cells among six human cell lines and were especially effective against prostate, pancreatic and lung cancers Seven years of silence broken–it’s finally here!"
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I LOVE YOU ......

Sanskrit has 96 words for love , ancient Persian has 80 , Greek three and English only one. This is indicative of the poverty of awareness or emphasis that we give to that tremendously important realm of feeling. Eskimos have 30 words for snow , because it is a life-and-death matter to them to have exact information about the element they live with so intimately. If we had a vocabulary of 30 words for love , we would immediately be richer and more intelligent in this human... element so close to our heart.

An Eskimo probably would die of clumsiness if he had only one word for snow , we are close to dying of loneliness because we have only one word for love. Of all the Western languages , English may be the most lacking when it comes to feeling There are so many ways to experience love. The ``I love you`` I say to elder daughter , like sweet summer light , is different than the ``I love you`` that I whisper into my wife`s ear , like a steady river and different still from the ``I love you`` I tell my younger son. The ``I love you`` that I have said to my various beloveds that have graced my life over the years is different than the ``I love you`` that I say to my best friends. The ``I love you`` I say to my sister is different than the ``I love you`` I say to my mother. This might sound obvious , but it`s important to note that we generally accept and normalize these different shades of love. Yet when it comes to our intimate partners , we expect to feel one kind of love in one measurement : namely, ``madly in love`` without a hint of doubt or uncertainty clouding the pure , ecstatic experience. We exert immense and unrealistic levels of pressure on ourselves : especially during the early stages of a relationship and during an engagement : to feel an exact amount and sentiment of love for our intimate partners. We believe that we can measure love , that there`s a right way to love or an adequate quantity of love that signals that you have met the ``right`` partner and now you are legitimized to marry. Just as our culture propagates one image of physical beauty and one measure of success , so do we absorb one definition of romantic love : namely , a heart-fluttering , ecstatic feeling accompanied by 100 percent certainty that we have found ``the one.`` Sadly and all too often , we hear that an engagement or marriage ends because one beloved ``fell out of love.`` What does this mean ??? I can only assume it means that the butterflies escaped and the ``in love`` feeling dimmed , causing the one who ``fell out of love`` to arrive at the conclusion that the relationship must be fundamentally flawed and inevitably over. It`s a false conclusion that too many people jump to , which causes them to walk away from a healthy , loving relationship that may need a little fine-tuning : or , most likely , an adjustment in the way they are thinking about love. Just as there are many ways to have a healthy , fulfilling marriage , so too are many ways to love. In order to widen our perspective on romantic love , it`s helpful to break down the phrase ``I love you`` so that we start to see its variance. And when you break it down , you see that there are so many ways to love your beloved. There is the appreciation you feel when he does something thoughtful and kind , like brush the drops of water by mist off your car in 20-degree weather or buy your favorite kind of bread. There is the comfort you feel when you come home at the end of a hard day at work and she`s there , waiting for you with a plate of hot food and your favorite TV show cued up. There is the gratitude you feel when she attends the family gathering. There is the warmth you feel when you see him across the room and know that he is your guy. There are the tingles you feel when she kisses you , maybe not every time , but enough to know that a spark still burns between you. There is the trust you feel when you walk through a difficult conflict together and emerge stronger than ever on the other side. There is the awe you feel when you remember how rare it is to find someone who ``gets`` you and who you ``get.`` There is the softness you feel when you focus on one physical quality in your partner that melts your heart and brings a smile to your face. There is the joy you feel when you listen to your favorite song together or have a blast on the dance floor. There is the contentment you feel when you read together but separately before going to bed. There is the stability that grows when you nurture the garden of your marriage year after year, enduring challenges and celebrating joys and always knowing that you support your own and each other's growth and happiness. We live on an abundant planet. There isn`t just one fruit to be enjoyed in summer , not merely a single sweet plum to delight in as the first juice runs over your fingers : but cherries , blackberries , strawberries , melons , grapes , nectarines , peaches. Such miracles !!! Likewise , there are so many ways to love. When we attune our awareness and widen our consciousness to include these variations on our narrow cultural definition , we know that romantic love is multicolored and multidimensional. It`s infinitely richer than the images presented on the big screen , infinitely more nuanced and alive than the one-dimensional feeling of butterflies that sometimes initiates a relationship. It`s appreciation , comfort , gratitude , warmth , tingles , trust , awe , softness , joy , contentment and stability ( to name just a few words for love ). It`s real and honest and when we commit to loving beloved with whom we can learn about , it becomes one of the most fulfilling and meaningful paths we can embark upon.

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Grammar For Life

Live in active voice, not the passive.

Think more about what you make happen than what happens to you.

...Live in the indicative mood rather than subjective.

Be concerned with things as they are rather than as they might be.

Live in the present tense facing the duty at hand.

Without regret for the past or worry for the future.

Live in the first person, criticizing yourself rather than finding fault with others.

Live in singular number, caring more for the approval of your own conscience than for the applause of the crowd.

And if you want a verb to conjugate, you cannot do better than to take the verb “to love”...

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What is Love......

Love is a frequency of energy that’s always available to us.  More accurately, love is the fundamental energy of the universe – the energy that creates, sustains and evolves all life.  It’s a generative and evolutionary force that’s little understood because it doesn’t obey mechanistic laws.

Love can never be objectively measured, demonstrated, or quantified.  The existential philosopher Soren Kierkegaard recognized this when he observed that “to love someone is to believe that they are loving.”  Kierkegaard knew that love requires belief because it exists at the level of essence rather than at the level of form.  Things that exist at the level of form can be measured.  Things that exist at the level of essence cannot be measured or seen.

The more I love you, the more I trust that you are loving.  My love for you is my trust in the love that you already are.

A little-realized fact is that this trust has the quality of evolving the one on whom it is bestowed.  In other words, the more fully you trust that I am loving, the more likely I am to express lovingness and goodness to you, because your trust is nourishing for my heart.  It builds me up, it draws me out.  It makes a safe space for my love to grow.  On the other hand, the less fully you trust that I am loving, the more likely I am to withdraw from you and express coldness or rigidness, because your distrust is chilling.  It shuts me down, it keeps me at bay. It makes no safe space for my love to grow.

This dynamic of trust works at the personal level, and it also works at the level of our relationship with all of life.  The more that we trust that life is essentially good and loving, the more it responds to our love by showing us goodness.  The more we believe that life is essentially dangerous and brutal, the more it shows us hardness and brutality.  Life and other people can only offer us as much love as we’re willing to believe that they have.

Most of us can only experientially feel love when we’re in a sympathetic resonance (or we’ve “fallen in love”) with someone or something. Sympathetic resonance happens when there’s a soul-level similarity between us and another person.

When we’re in sympathetic resonance with someone we feel like they truly “get” us.  We might have experiences of reading one another’s minds and of feeling one another’s emotions.  The transference of thought and emotion happens between two people in a state of sympathetic resonance just like the transference of sound vibrations happens between two strings on a guitar that share the same harmonic overtone.

It can be quite amazing when we discover someone else  with whom we resonate with in this way.  It’s a great relief to finally feel in harmony with another person after a lifetime spent feeling alone.  It’s extremely freeing, because the condition of sympathy makes us feel free to relax with the other person, and as we relax we sense and express our identity with the love that sustains everything.

Yet even the most beautiful harmony between two people can’t be sustained unless those two people are also willing to help themselves and others grow in relationship to that fundamental love.  This is because that fundamental love contains the energy necessary to support the ongoing harmony.  Just like the strings of a guitar need to receive energy from the hands of the guitar-player in order to vibrate.

The mistake that most people make in their relationships is in confusing sympathetic resonance with the basic energy of love itself.   Sympathetic resonance is beautiful, but it can end.  Each note (or in our metaphor, each partner in a relationship) only resonates sympathetically only as long as it has energy vibrating it.  The energy that vibrates the notes (or that uplifts the partners) has to come from somewhere – it either comes from divine love itself or it has to come from one of the finite energy sources available in the physical and chemical world – prestige, dopamine from sex, food, caffeine, etc.

Many originally romantic relationships devolve into platonic friendships as each partner stops getting energized from the sexual chemistry of the other and so instead seeks outside the relationship for energy – from recognition at work, from flirtation with others, from alcohol and drugs, from pleasure from masturbation, from feeling important at church – whatever.  We can get finite energy boosts in a thousand different ways.  Some of these ways are more socially acceptable than others, but they’re all less that what we’re designed for.

We human beings have infinite longings in our souls because we’re meant to be in relationship with infinite love.  We’re meant to get our energy directly from divine love just like plants get their energy directly from the sunlight.  Most of us have forgotten, though, how to energize ourselves with divine love because it’s not something we’re taught to do in our culture.

The process of learning how to gain energy from divine love rather than from finite and false sources of energy is a deep one.  It’s the essence of all mysticism and it takes years to master.  Yet it doesn’t take years for this kind of work to show stunning results in one’s life – that can happen in a matter of weeks with the focused application of principles and practices designed to cut through what’s false in us and heal our wounds.

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Real Love Versus Infatuation

Real Love Versus Infatuation....

Transitions are always opportunities for growth and healing. Sometimes we need to heal ways of being in the world that are no longer serving us – like my beloveds who realize, through the wedding planning, that they’re suffering from the disease to please and that they need to learn how to put themselves first. Sometimes transitions provide opportunities to expand our internal resources – like the new mother who thinks she doesn't have enough patience to handle the needs of her newborn and yet, through time and the immensity of her love, her patience grows. And sometimes transitions require that we redefine an entire belief system that has governed our way of viewing the world and relationships – like the majority of my beloveds who realize during their engagement that a large portion of their anxiety is caused by their unhealthy and false beliefs about the nature of love.

If you’ve grown up in Western culture, you've been inundated from the time you were born with images and beliefs about love. Most, if not all, of these images are predicated on the archaic paradigm of Romantic Love. Romantic love is not real love. Romantic love is, most simply put, infatuation. It’s based on the model of longing for someone that you can never completely have, and it’s this longing that then becomes mistaken for real love. Being in a state of longing is a dramatic and fully alive experience. It creates butterflies in your belly and light-headedness in your mind. If not understood properly, the one in the longing position can easily believe that she or he is “in love.”

If the object of the longing, often called “the beloved”, does reciprocate, “the lover” often runs the other way. And so begins an all-too familiar game of chase with each participant alternating between the pursuer or distance roles.  The game is emotionally intense but ultimately unsatisfying. The bottom line is that real intimacy never occurs. It’s dramatic but safe. It’s temporarily painful but there’s no long-term risk involved. And it certainly isn't a healthy model on which to base a marriage!

Real love, on the other hand, requires that both people show up for each other in the same place at the same time. There is no game-playing, which creates more consistent stability in terms of the intensity of emotion; gone are the ecstatic highs and despairing lows that defined the unhealthy relationships of the past. As such, real love requires that both people risk their hearts to form a bond of true intimacy.

Real love is a conscious choice that often employs the rational part of our brains. Some couples have a “free ride” in the early stages of their relationship where they experience the intense feelings characterized by romantic love, but not everyone. And these feelings certainly aren’t necessary for real love to emerge as the relationship grows, as evidenced by the success rate of arranged marriages in other parts of the world. It’s when the infatuation feelings diminish that the couple has to learn that love is a choice, not a feeling.

Real love accepts that your partner is a fallible, imperfect human, just as you are. Unlike romantic life, which ascends the object of desire to the realm of a god, part of the jolt down to earth that many of beloveds experience during their engagement is the realization that their partner is not perfect – that he isn’t as smart or witty or fun or good-looking as she thought the person she would marry would be. The romantic bubble of marrying Prince Charming is burst. Most of my beloveds focus on one missing area – sometimes to the point of obsession – and it’s often an attribute that never bothered her before they were engaged. As time passes, the real fears are addressed, and love is redefined, the obsession mellows and she learns to accept and fully love her partner exactly as he is.

Real love ebbs and flows in terms of interest, ease, and feelings. In other words, in any healthy relationship there will be times when things effortlessly work, where the spark is alive and the couple is interested in one another and life. And there will be times of, for lack of a better word, boredom. Part of accepting real love is understanding that the boredom is normal and not a symptom that something is wrong with the relationship or that you don’t love your partner enough.

Real love is based on shared values and a solid friendship. You genuinely like each other (even though you might not like everything about your partner).

Real love is action. Real love asks that you give even when you don’t feel like giving (in a healthy way, not a codependent way). Real love is more concerned with how you can give to your partner than what you can get from him or her.

Real love is a spiritual practice in that your focus is not how you can change your partner to alleviate your anger, pain, or annoyance but how you can assume full responsibility for those feelings and find healthy and constructive ways to attend to them. When you change in positive ways, the relationship will positively change as well.

Real love is a lifelong practice. You’re not expected to know how to give and receive real love at the onset of marriage, but are expected to work at it so that over the course of your life together your capacity to love grows.

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Some Basic Principles of Awesoming..

A list.

1) Awesome (perhaps inevitably, for us mere mortals!) cycles through periods of miserable suck in which your lovelight dims and the queasy miasma of vast self-rejection settles in.  It’s okay right now to feel mired in a rotten  cesspool of your own spectacular failure.
I feel that way usually at least for one full week out of the month (my PMS is a bloody-mouthed Destroyer of Worlds, and not in that cool way), and sometimes for whole seasons of numbing yuck in which chain-smoking while watching whole tv series consecutively and only leaving the house to go to 12-step meetings or get more cigarettes is a completely valid way to keep from more promptly and actively killing myself.  I felt that way pretty much solid from 2004 – 2009.  It was great.
2) Awesoming your life, despite how very perky the idea may sound, is actually work that involves soul-melting terror.  Soul-melting terror is the essence of sublimity, and awesomeness is sublime.  Things that are also sublime include hurricanes, Antartica, Tristan and Isolde, and my PMS.
3) Awesoming requires a rearrangement of your heart and brain, so that your intuitive-embracing-poetic-oxytocin-pumping-whole-picture-seeing-compassionate-truth-unveiling-heart is in charge of your business and your analytical-judgmental-calculating-dopamine-seeking-miserable-adrenalized-frightened-rabid-squirrel brain is given chamomile tea and gently comforted with a warm blanket.
4) Awesoming entails learning to identify with and live from your fundamental goodness, innocence and wonder rather than with your culturally programmed guilt, striving, and fear.
5) You already engage in awesoming and you’re damn good at it or else you wouldn’t be alive and reading this.
6) The process of turning the queasy miasma of vast self-rejection into fertilizer for your slowly-magestically-spinning-sparkling-blue-lotus-of-self-realization is an alchemical one.
It involves paying attention to your dreams, dialoguing with your moods, meditating, journaling, sharing your feelings openly and non-violently with others, playing pretend, writing poetry and making art, throwing parties, dressing up, enacting freaky rituals in moonlight that would scare your mom, singing songs, and loving people both madly and tepidly, as the situation requires.
7) Awesoming isn’t something that’s given much space and encouragement in our society.  Mostly because when you’re engaged in the work of awesoming you’re much less interested in buying stuff, you become allergic to lies, you tend to share generously in public and you bring forth spurtzing geysers of joy into the world.  All of which greatly interferes with global corporate capitalism.
So, there you have it.  Awesoming is hard and mostly non-glamorous work.

Highly non-glamorous things I often do in the service of awesoming include:


1) Sitting in moldy church basements and over-heated social halls at 12-step meetings every week.
2) Crying and freaking out.
3) Making food in my tiny-ass closet of a kitchen for folks I may or may not immediately like.
4) Devoting whole days to questioning the reality of my thoughts, beliefs and perceptions, Byron Katie-style.
5) Faithfully studying New Age tomes  and self-help books from the 1970s like A Course in Miracles, A New Earth, The Handbook to Higher Consciousness, and The Nature of Personal Reality.
6) Hanging out at drum circles with people older than my parents who unselfconsciously chant in made-up “Native American” languages and refer to the world as “the matrix.”
7) Blogging.
8) Passing up on real jobs in order to have more time for all of the above.
All of which is to say…. awesoming is counter-cultural, difficult, time-consuming, subjects one to accusations of dorkiness and to being made fun of by 16 year olds, and totally worth it.
Because when the foul miasma of rotten self-rejection lifts and I get peeks at my true nature and everyone else’s true nature of massive, throbbing, heart-pounding lovelight glory –  well, that just rocks.

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